Here we go… every travel-blogger or any “something-blogger” one day must face the issue:
“writing a lifestyle post or not to write a lifestyle post?”. That is the question.
As far as concerns me, I’ve soon stepped to another, theoretical and philosophical question:
What the heck is a lifestyle post?
In front of this huge anasnwered question, I just decided to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing… writing what on earth I feel like to.
I just woke up happy like almost every morning and I would like to write about it, about the way I do and the way many others could but don’t. And, to be true, there are many mornings when I can’t actually put in practice this art and so this post is also a kind of self-reminder.
Let the sun shine in
I think that there must be something chemical in this. If you wake up with the light getting trought the windows is like if the day was welcoming you. Yes, let the new day welcome you! Also if and when you’d like to stay in bed and sleep kind of forever!
Don’t procrastinate what makes you feel good.
Put the things you like most at the beginning of the day.
I know that you were taught to put duties first and pleasure (read: what you love) after, but I think this is a highly overrated idea. To do your duty at best you must be satisfied and if you are satisfied after 2 hours running, after blogging, after painting etc. that’s what in my opinion you must do as the first thing in the morning.
Sometimes happyness can be a matter of planning! Don’t wait to be tired after a working day to enjoy the things you love most!
Sleep a lot and follow your body
The ‘follow your heart’ philosophy has never been my favourite. If we were taught how to understand the needs of our body independently on schedules, duties etc. we would learn the art of happiness earlier and better.
Well, that’s quite hard to me (sleeping a lot, I mean), but I’ve noticed how a good or a bad quality sleep influences my mood, my beauty, my will to get up in the morning with enthusiasm.
Call/write to a friend as soon as you wake up telling her one reason why your are happy
We spend so many energies in complaining. Did you know this attitude is toxic? It has bad effects on you and on the people sourrounding you
Try to write a short message to your friend/s telling that you are “happy because”. After you tell things, they become more real.
Surround youself with positive people
This doesn’t mean you must leave your friends and beloved alone in the moments of sadness and need!! But I think you should beware people (yes, even friends and partners) that have a negative attitude even in front of normal and even pleasant situations.
On the contrary, there are people that even when they are actually complaining about something, they still keep an active and positive/resolutional attitude, able to give energy.
I’ve learned in years of “practice” how to understand which are those people that have a bad effect on me. Well… I’m particularly sensible and permeable so my self defence must be doubled!
Learn the art of not goving a damn
Truly the hardest thing for me and for many others… but as long as you learn how to stop caring too much about what the others thing, you can’t stop anymore.
I know that sometimes the attitude of feeling guilty for everything (what you weren’t able to do, friends you couldn’t call or visit, things you don’t feel like doing anymore, not to be married, not to have kids yet etc…) derives from your life and past and it may take years of therapy to get over i. But the first step is to start asking yourself if you are effected by this ‘curse’ and if the answer is yes, starting to work at it.
There’s not just one way to be happy
I’m sure happiness would be such an easier way if only we could really make it the way we like.
What makes me happy is not what makes you happy, but it’s like if we were taught that happyness is the same for all:
– a good and well paid job
– a lot of money
– true love that lasts forever
– a family with kids
– a career
and can go on forever.
It took me a while to understand why, differently from all other compulsive travellers, I’ve always been longing for my own home to buy. But I finally got that this just was my way to be happy and I did my best to reach this aims and… just enjoy this contrediction.
Read how I was able to buy a home despite being a Italian freelancer.
Most of the unsatisfaction derives from adapting to what the others do; we never ask ourself what do we really want and if we are happy.
I tell you, authonomy has a high price, and it’s strictly related to the complex art of not giving a damn.
TRAVEL AS SOON AS YOU CAN
Well, if travelling makes me happy, it doesn’t mean this will make happy someone else. But I have to be true, I’ve never met anyone coming back sad from a travel.
Have I told you how travelling changed my life and how I changed my life to travel? maybe this can be inspiring.
Happyness is like love and beauty: just an attitude!